Feeling Fine at 29 | Katie Proctor

A lot can change in one year.

I know that a lot has certainly changed in year 28 of this girl’s life, and I anticipate that year 29 will be no different. As I celebrate being one year closer to a pretty big milestone {and only 1/3 of the way through my 30 before 30 list}, I want to reflect on what lies ahead.

I have made a pretty big decision to live more intentionally through helping others. And I’m the happiest I’ve been in a really, really long time.

I credit much of this to shifting my perception from what I want to do to how I want to feelNow, this may not sound too revolutionary to you guys, but trust me it is. The Desire Map workbook by Danielle LaPorte is a relatively new method of goal-setting that revolves around intangible things we don’t often like talking about – our feelings. Which, it turns out, is the very reason we DO need to understand our feelings and how the world around us influences them. We spend so much time shoving our feelings aside that we’re not even sure what it means to truly THRIVE – and how that looks different for us than it does for anyone else.

If you’re looking for one holiday gift for someone special in your life this year – THIS IS IT. It’s an investment in helping your loved ones be happier and more fulfilled. Pretty priceless, if you ask me.

So here’s what it looks like for ME to truly thrive:


Through a series of exercises in the book, I arrived at my core desired feelings {or CDF}. The idea is that all of my actions and decisions should ultimately lead me to these feelings. If they don’t, they’re really not serving me. If they are, full steam ahead. My five CDF’s are: Adventurous, Connected, Grounded, Radiant and Influential.

Adventurous – I’m paranoid, and scared of pretty much everything. Which stops me from having fun in a lot of situations. I don’t LIKE feeling this way, and I desire to do more adventurous things {like scuba diving with my husband} without lingering fear holding me back.

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Connected – I am a social introvert, that’s for sure. I’ve never been THAT good at keeping in touch with people or remembering to send them cards for important events. And when given a choice, I’d often rather stay home than go out. But remembering my desire to have real, meaningful connections with people has encouraged me to reach out more often and be a better friend and family member.


Grounded – I strive to be a more selfless person who is rooted in good faith, gives freely and genuinely cares for other. There have been times in my life where I’ve been more judgmental than I care to admit. But that’s not who I am at my core, and my actions and words should not reflect that.

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Radiant – It’s funny, when I first dreamed up my CDF’s, I felt like this one was the most aspirational. The furthest out of reach for me. In my mind, it depicted a commitment to being healthy and fit. If you’ve been following me on Facebook or Instagram, you know that it’s taken me over a year to really grasp this one. Taking a chance on a new business opportunity really helped me come into my own.


Influential – This has always meant career success to me. Moving up, getting ahead, you name it. I wanted to matter, and I wanted to be significant. But my definition of INFLUENCE has truly transitioned in the last month to a desire to be INSPIRATIONAL to people. To show them that you CAN make a difference with small changes. And that ANYONE can change, no matter what you’ve done in your past or who people think you are. The power is within YOU to live up to your full potential.

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My world may be vastly different than it was last year, but I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Now, tell me…have you read The Desire Map? Share your CDF’s here when you do so we can all support each other!

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