It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not.
Take a minute to let that sink in.
There have been many times in my life where I’ve made a decision because it’s “not me”. And I don’t mean in the sense that it feels inauthentic, rather I’ve assigned labels to myself that I’m scared to break through.
For example, I don’t perceive myself as very adventurous or a risk-taker. And when I get in situations that require these attributes, I don’t give 100% of myself.
I hit a point where it feels “safe”, and that’s where I stay.
Last night, I tried bouldering for the first time. A friend in San Francisco invited me to an indoor climbing gym, and before I could even say yes, the narrative I’ve told myself for years took over.
“I can’t do this.”
“I need to take a class first.”
“What if I fall? Get hurt? Look stupid?”
These stories continued to play in my mind as I attempted my first climb. I knew I would get scared when I climbed too high, so I did. I knew my arms would give out on me, so they did.
And as I realized how I was manifesting my own experience, everything came to a screeching halt.
The only thing standing between me and success was my self-talk.
As soon as I switched the story in my head, everything changed. My confidence. My form. My pace. My belief that I, too, can boulder.
And you better believe I reached the top more than once as a result.
So I leave you with a few questions to ponder:
- What stories do you need to stop telling yourself to move forward?
- What labels can you shed this week?