Who do you think you're not? | Katie Proctor

It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not. 

Take a minute to let that sink in.

There have been many times in my life where I’ve made a decision because it’s “not me”. And I don’t mean in the sense that it feels inauthentic, rather I’ve assigned labels to myself that I’m scared to break through.

For example, I don’t perceive myself as very adventurous or a risk-taker. And when I get in situations that require these attributes, I don’t give 100% of myself.

I hit a point where it feels “safe”, and that’s where I stay. 

Last night, I tried bouldering for the first time. A friend in San Francisco invited me to an indoor climbing gym, and before I could even say yes, the narrative I’ve told myself for years took over.

“I can’t do this.”
“I need to take a class first.”
“What if I fall? Get hurt? Look stupid?”

These stories continued to play in my mind as I attempted my first climb. I knew I would get scared when I climbed too high, so I did. I knew my arms would give out on me, so they did.

And as I realized how I was manifesting my own experience, everything came to a screeching halt.

The only thing standing between me and success was my self-talk.  

As soon as I switched the story in my head, everything changed. My confidence. My form. My pace. My belief that I, too, can boulder.

And you better believe I reached the top more than once as a result.

So I leave you with a few questions to ponder:

  • What stories do you need to stop telling yourself to move forward?
  • What labels can you shed this week?